We are very excited about our Princess Party coming up in THREE WEEKS! But more importantly we are excited about the possibility of providing a Cuddle Cot to a local hospital.
When our member Kylie told us about the Cuddle Cot, the meeting became very silent and not much was said between us about the idea for the rest of the meeting, except that we thought it was a “good idea”. All of us went home with something very tragic and meaningful to think about, “What if I was in that situation?”
Kathy, our programing VP spent the entire night researching and crying over what it would mean to have to use a Cuddle Cot and how devastating it would be to endure the lost of an infant or small child.
At our next meeting, though we all had frogs in our throats trying not to cry, we talked about what a Cuddle Cot was, what it would mean to our community, and how to we talk to our potential donors about such a heart wrenching topic.
How do you talk about the lost of a baby? Not many of us do, even with our own family members. About 350 babies die each year in Minnesota before they are age 1 year.
Each year, about 350 babies die in MN
The leading causes of infant death in the U.S. are birth defects, disorders related to premature birth and low birth weight, sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), conditions due to pregnancy complications, and injury. Infant mortality includes:
Perinatal mortality (death when less than 7 days old, plus fetal deaths of 28 weeks gestation or more)
Neonatal mortality (death in the first 27 days of life). The leading causes of neonatal death are disorders related to premature birth and low birth weight.
Postneonatal mortality (death from the infant’s 28th day, but within the first year). These deaths reflect events in infancy and are more likely to reflect environmental factors. SIDS is the leading cause of postneonatal mortality.
It’s very likely that you or someone very close to you has felt the pain of infant loss, but haven’t had a lot of opportunity to talk about the experience.
My family has experienced quite a lot of loss of this nature, and the most recent loss would have benefited greatly from the presence of a Cuddle Cot. I did not get to meet my nephew before he passed a few hours after he was born prematurely. Because the hospital did not have a way to keep his little body cool in the hospital room they had to bring him in and out of the morgue (in the basement of the hospital) any time anyone wanted to see him, and then for only a very short time. They recommended against doing this too many times.
Since our family members are spread out across the state, my sister had to make the painful decision of who got to see her son. That decision also included herself. Since she was also in the hospital due to complications, she could have decided to keep her son with her, but that meant her husband, grandparents, and others would not get to say goodbye.
In the end, I did not make the very limited list of who got to say goodbye to Magnus in those few short days of opportunity provided. I am okay with that, because it meant my parents could… but what if… what if there was a way to make it possible for everyone to say goodbye?
The makers of the Cuddle Cot, Flexmort, have a wonderful story on their website on how this very thing was made possible by the Cuddle Cot:
The Cuddle Cot gave us the irreplaceable gift of time. We all have limited time on earth with our loved ones but when decades are condensed into hours every extra minute is precious and necessary. We were granted time in a quiet and private place (after all of the drama of delivery) to say goodbye to our child (and all of the dreams we had for him). We were granted time to just look at him and memorize as best as we could his beautiful form. We were granted time to call our families so they could come and visit us and spend the time they needed to both meet him and say goodbye to him. Humans aren’t hardwired to accept birth and death in one day. It’s not natural. It’s unfair. It’s so many indescribable things. Families that have to suffer this agonizing experience should be treated with as much compassion and time as possible. – Read the full Story by Corey Kruss Here
So, as we watch our children dance with Princesses, I want to thank each an every one of you that bought a ticket for the Princess Party, that came to Pizza Ranch last Monday, that bought glow sticks at the 4th of July fireworks show. THANK YOU! Your support of Fairmont Women of Today events is what is making this fundraiser possible.
Tickets to our Princess Party on May 7th and Donations for this cause can be made Here (To make a donation without buying a ticket, choose a time to buy tickets, but instead of picking a ticket type, choose donation)
As always, if you want to be involved with a group of ladies that have fun and laugh and cry all in the same meeting trying to make Fairmont a better place, we meet every 4th Monday at Jake’s Pizza at 7 Pm.