I have to say it is so exciting for me to think about the possibilities of our Next Chapter with our newly experienced returning members and our newly acquired members looking for that something to add to their life.
I am currently getting ready to leave for a long awaited vacation, and as I was cleaning my house I came across the MWT chapter mailing with a letter from our new State President Shelli Struzyk.
One of the points in the letter was to “Step out of your comfort zone and take a leadership positions… that needs to be filled.”
Our chapter has several board positions, and some of them need to be filled, or positions renewed. Joining a group and immediately taking a role is a daunting task, but it is not impossible. This is what happened to me when I joined and was almost immediately asked to be President.
BOY, I did NOT know what I was doing! But here I am, three years later with a chapter 14 members strong and an amazing group of women behind me that helped me figure it out. I may have had a determined demeanor and a mask of confidence, but I was constantly worried I would fail and FWT would be closed down forever!
One of the tenets of MN Women of Today is “Growth”, and I don’t know if you remember the feeling of growing pains from childhood, but I’ve come to learn that those pains apply to physical, emotional, and mental growth as well… but the result is worth it.
About a year or so ago, fellow member Kylie and I were talking about an article she read regarding putting things you have to do in three columns.
- Column One: Things that you have no problem doing
- Column Two: Things you would rather not do, but you will if you have to and
- Column Three: Things that you find very difficult and do not want to do under any circumstances… AKA: Please pull out my hair strand by strand before you make me do this!!! The point of the article was to work your way through the columns slowly until you were able to attempt things in column three.
We started rating things that we accomplished by which column would put the task in to see what would happen to our attitude towards these things. A funny thing happened, we noticed that when we acknowledged that the thing we were doing were hard, but we did them anyway, we felt GOOD! There was a sense of relief that the world didn’t explode, and that we accomplished it, and that maybe just maybe we could handle being an adult. I started to realize that even though I had the gurglily feeling in my stomach, I could still do these things. Sometimes I even did them well! Column three items don’t seem so impossible now, even though they are still difficult.
Things in Column Two for me:
- Returning phone calls (I’d rather text or email),
- Delegating tasks that have importance to me (I want my hand in everything),
- and this next one is almost a column three… taking on a position that I’ve never done or is important (like PRESIDENT).
I dare say in the last year, several of our members have attempted Column Two tasks and are even approaching Column Three. I know that Sue‘s article on her depression was a Column Three and it took monumental courage for her to share it. I’m so proud and impressed by her bravery and the tremendous impact it has had on many women in our community. It was even published in the State MNWT Newslet to be shared with all members in Minnesota! Amazing.
So while I’m gone this next week, I hope you will consider whether you would like to try for a Column Two or Three and maybe attempt a few of them. If you need support, joining Fairmont Women of Today is a great place to start… maybe that’s in one of your columns… don’t worry we understand it’s hard to do some things. We’ve got your back.
Go in Courage, my friends.
Erin Howk; President